Busy few days

Mowing the yard has been a priority and edging. Mowed both yards day before yesterday and got our yard edged yesterday before I had to leave both days to meet the overhead door repair company at the fire dept. Will try to get the rest of the edging done today and finish the push mowing. Bob worked on getting the mowing deck back on the other riding mower but he is having issues with where each thing goes as he has waited so long to put it back together. Watered the yards to keep them from drying out, but still have the orchard to do.
Got the papers signed to get Mom moved into the nursing home and the first check written for $2060 for the first month until Medicaid gets set up. Got her medication to the also and now to get a dresser and tv there for her to use. Will explain what we are going to do I guess on Sunday when we take her. Who knows. Just playing it day by day and leaving it in God's hands. She had a great day Thursday; wanted to help mow the yard, so told her that wouldnt work and she could come over and weed the raised beds. She wanted to know when, and I told her any time she wanted to come over, and sure enough looked up from mowing and there she was, with her sun hat on and she was ready to weed. So took her to the raise strawberry bed and she worked in it for about 30 min. Told her we needed a Coke break and we went in and sat for a while, and Erin came over and we talked and she was ready to go home. So walked her home and she got in bed to rest. Went back over with her dinner, and she was sitting up in bed watching tv. We talked while she ate and she was just as chipper as could be. Yesterday she was talkative also and very confused. Started her pills for keep her calm for this weekend per the Doctor, so will see how she is today.
I seem to be having pain issues more than usual this morning. Have taken pain meds again - advil again as took some before bed but they seem to have worn off. Hmm?
Talked to the funeral home and have to go sign a new contract with them this morning to keep Mom's pre arrangement going. Down from $950 per quarter to $400, so that will help. I think we can manage that. Put the lots at Restland up for sale for her again, so sure hope they sell so we can pay off the prearrangement and have some left over for her account for extras she may need in the future.
Bob has an appt with the Dr for next Thursday to set up his surgery for the hietal hernia, and he has been asked to work in the office for the Golf Cart Rentals next week at the Speedway. That will help pay for the a/c units installation.
Will go thru Mom's stuff next week after Doc and I decide what we each want. Then have a garage sale and put the monies in her account for extras. That will take at least a week to get ready for, as will be doing that on my own since Bob will be out of pocket. Phyllis said she will come help when she doesnt have the grand kids, so may ask her too.
Anyway. back to bed and maybe a bit of sleep, although still have a lot of pain issues. Will see

Memorial Day

Warm outside, and windy. We spent the morning cleaning up the tent, ie scrubbing it inside and out roof to bottom, of all the mud. Then the ice chest, from the bag of fish they forgot to keep iced down that was 4 days old, oh my G--. He even brought the bag in the house for me to divide. Gag Gag. Cleaned out the chuck boxes, not so bad, thank goodness, just two dish washer loads of dishes and pans. then had to recure my iron skiller. :) Ah the fishing trips the men take.
Mom is doing pretty goood this morning. Ate well, but has been rearranging again. Got all her new clothes yesterday and have the washed and will mark them later. Tomorrow off to the Care center and see the room and make sure we are ok for Sunday. Havent heard from Doc and Family yet.
We are resting and then off to Ellens and Kennys for cook out.
Tomorrow will be lawn mowing etc and Asta's hair appt. Busy day....

Kept busy

Kept myself busy yesterday, and the cough and head congestion is better. Maybe by the time Bob gets back it will be mostly cleared up. :)
Cleaned one of the bathrooms yesterday, still two to go. Gave Mom her meals, and she ate every bite. She was having a good day yesterday, that makes me wonder if I am doing the right thing, and then I know she will have the bad days.
Talked with the Dr at 10;30 and he said not possible to get her into the hospital and then admitted to the nursing care center, unless she had something physically wrong. If that was the case, then she would have a 3 day stay and then to the nursing care center. We have to take her. I talked to Doc yesterday, and told him about the visit, and he was no more happy about it than I was. Now we have to be the bad guys. The date set is next Sunday, June 1. I will go down between now and then and get her new clothes etc, and get them in place, with her name on everything. She still have a few nice pieces of clothes, that I will include, but that will have to come later. Also talked to Doc about getting the house cleaned out, and the dirty dog used carpet out of the house, and then seal the floor. Alan wants to cut off the Elect as soon as possible so that the moneys she does have can be used for her daily upkeep. Going to have a drink after this is alllll over, a bigg drink, and as I am not used to drinking any more, one should do the trick.
Went over to see Phyllis and Danny for a bit and just visited and talked. That helped a lot as just talked about it helped take off the sharp edges. Then I talked to Glenda and Lee last night, and that helped too, they will keep us in their prayers.
Bob called a couple of times yesterday, and I told him about Mom when he called the first time. He called again to talk about it and said he would talk to me today.
Went to bed last night about 10pm and was awake again at 12:30am and up changing the sheets and started the washer. Folder the clothes in the dryer and put them away. Then back to bed and slept until Asta woke me at 5am wanting her walkies. Let her out, found I was actually hungry, so fixed bacon and biscuit with peach conserve.
Today, will give Mom breakfast, and then to my nail appt at 9:30 with Ellen. Then to Costco for some meds we dont have. Home to give Mom lunch, and hmmmm, just dont know. Will have to see what the mood strikes me.

Another Page turned

Eventful day yesterday. I guess it has been a good thing to have quiet time to think. I say "I guess" as it did cause the beginning of a change of events that will change to the rest of our lives. Of course I have a headache to beat all headaches this morning, just tension but still have issues to come to terms with, and life to live. Would love to crawl into a book or movie like I did last night, watched 2 movies from Netflix after finishing a Nora Roberts Book. Think I will have to read another one today, if thinking gets to be tooo much. I know that I am a strong person and can shut away stuff to pull out and analise later, but this affects so many. Ellen and Kenny, Doc and Pat, Alan, and most of all Bob and I. Our life will change a lot over the next few months, and I will have to be sure that I dont get crabby with him. I am sure he would understand but only so much can a person take from crabby. If you could ask my x husband, and Bob, they would tell you when life change happen, until I come to terms with it, I can be crabby. Would love to go to Colorado for a couple of weeks to talk to Alan and just come to terms with it. He is so good for me!!!!!My next to go to is Phyllis, and I will probably go see her today, if she is at home. She has those grandbabys to take care of, and that comes first. Bob is fishing with the guys at the big "men verses fish men get together" up on the the Little Wichita and will be home Sunday. He deserves the get away, as he has been worried a lot lately. God works in the ways that are best for he and I. I can get past this first stuff and he can come home to a hopefully calmer person. Time will tell. Hmmmm the headache is better just talking about going to Colorado and talking to Phyllis/good sign. Didnt hear from Ellen last night so I am sure she is having long talks with Kenny about what they will do. I laid out my plans for everything yesterday to Doc and Ellen so that I can have this stuff preliminary planned in my mind, and as I am the on site person, figured I could lay out my ideas and see how they fly. After she is gone, Doc and I and Pat and Bob will go in and take out all of her stuff. Take up the carpet and seal the floor, and find a place for the dog, (not at our house), and clean the house. Doc and Pat were ok with it and Ellen was ok until she talked to Kenny. Talked to Alan first of course, as he is the money person, and he got the ball rolling and knows that he has to go to a lawyer today to get the final papers done and sent down here. All else he already had ready. He offered to come down and be here with me and give me moral support, but until I talk to the Dr this morning at 10:30 and talk to Jessica again this morning to be sure the room will hold until the first, I cant go forward with any other plans. Which is ok, as we have to have some time here to put everything in place. I realized that I was probably putting my wanting her to feel things and do things and be things that she just wasnt. I thought I had gotten past that with the "her not wanting to participate at holidays" thing, but I guess it was more than I thought. Or I have added more with time, who knows. I tend to compartmentalize things, to keep them in order, and some I put a lock on and dont reopen, which is the bad stuff, but it works for me.
Mom was very confused last night at dinner. She had her keys out and accused me of taking her purses, as she was leaving. Asked her where she was going and she didnt know, she was just going someplace. I think just as I left she knew who I was for an instant. Her eating certainly has not changed, seems to be getting better :) She is not getting around well, and seems dizzy more each day. This is not unusual as she seems to go thu cycles. I think, and I say think, that I saw the beginnings of an anger issue again last night. This would be unusual for her to have one again this quick, with only a week between. Will see what this morning brings, as it is almost breakfast time. She woulding change clothes again yesterday, so hopefully she did it on her own last night or I can get her to change today, as I will change her sheets again, and see if that will trigger a clothes change. Jessica was surprise yesterday that we could not get her to bathe, and change clothes when I was giving her the information on Mom. But she said it wouldnt be an issue and if she did start to wander, they would put her in the locked in area for a while to see if she would calm down, and the routine of bathing and clothes changing would come with time. I sure hope so. The nurse from Angles Care said that she thought with Mom in care, that the stimulus of other people, would help her to do more. I sure hope so. I will have to stay away for a while, up to 10 days or more, depending on what Jessica sees in Mom after she gets there. That alone will be a hard one as the waiting will make it seem worse than it will be going the first time to see how she reacts to us. Time will tell!!! Going to get her new clothes and night clothes, and have them ready for the event, as a lot of what she has will have to go.
Breakfast time so better pull the thought back and go see what new happening we have this morning. Prayers Prayers, that will keep me going. :)

Quick note

We are now into the phase of "dont want to sleep on the bed - will sleep in the chair". So, she eats, she sleeps in the chair, and good Lord only knows when she goes to the bathroom. Mind is alert somewhat, no more than any other time, maybe a bit less. Holds a short conversation when prompted. Not sure always who Bob is, other than he cooks her food. :) Made sure she did the potty thing after she ate breakfast today, but she cant straighten up, this makes 3 days.
Bob and Jim are off this morning seining for shad again, caught 3 yesterday :)
Then they are off to Weatherford for prices on ATV's for the fall fund raiser and home to start the fishing trip packing. Bob is now in debt to our vacation fund for $250, and owes me 5 days of vacation. :) oh he willl paaayyyyyy biggie!!! big!!!
Training tonight at the department at 6:30 so have to have dinner over and Mom finished by 6. Watering everything outside as we hit 99 deg. yesterday and everything is very wilted. The well will get a good use today. Need to get the repairs done on the irrigation in the orchard quickly or we wont have very large peaches - the few we do have.

Slow Monday

Well the Trazadone for mom is to be used only for anger incidents, not continually. I had cut her back to 1/2 twice a day and now have taken her completely off of the med, except for emergencies. Either she has had another spell, or the meds work on her exceptionally well. Will see as the day progresses. Her demencia has increased, 10 fold. She apparently has hurt her back leaning over doing what ever, as she has to use the walker today to get around. I got her back to bed mid morning and left her asleep to come do her wash.
Bob and Jim left at 7am this morning to go catch shad for bate, no luck of course. So they came back and got the weed eaters and are heading for the Little Wichita fishing spot to get it cleaned up for them to go back up on Wed afternoon. Of course they stopped and got night crawlers just in case the fish were biting. :) They will be back when I see them.
Got the Fire Dept accounts up to date, bills paid that came in this weekend, and all balance. That is soooooo nice. Got the personal accounts done also.
Went by Grandma and Grandpa's graves yesterday with Bob and Ellen as we were already at Restland to go to a funeral. Genia and Ray's bench was in place really nice.
House is in an upheavel again, as Bob is redoing his bathroom, and he lacks the trim and taking up the old vinyl tile. All of his tools will go out and the house will be tool free.
Upper resportary is better today. A week of this is the shits, and dont feel like doing anything as the fever stays about 100 to 101. But today so far it is better.

Lots been happening

Lots been happening and the days have run together. So think I will just put it down as it comes to me rather than try for order
Bob has been thru a barrage of tests for his gall bladder and a scope of his esophagus, and he has a 4" heital (sp) hernia, and an over active gall bladder. One more test next week and another visit to the surgeon and we should have a date for the surgery. Then 6 weeks of no lifting which will include 3 weeks of no driving, which puts us into the middle of July and he should be as good as new.
We had hoped to go to Colorado and visit Alan this summer but with his vacations and Bob's surgery I dont know if we will make it in July. May have to wait until the end of summer. Of course have to work into Doc's schedule to watch Mom.
Went and reviewed a retirement center and nursing center and liked what I saw of each. When the time comes, hope to get Mom into one or the other, which ever she qualifies for, but I imagine it will be the nursing center. She has had a period of anger that has lasted longer than usual and the Dr has put her on Trazadone for 20 days to see how that works. She is definately calmer and we are past the anger. She is up around more now, not sleeping as much or so it seems.
We have no baby donkeys yet, but Bob says we will have two calves within the month. That will make 4 baby donkeys and to calves this summer. Hope one of the calves is a bull as they are going for premium prices.
We have finished the trim in the house now and Bob is working on getting the 1/2 wall replaced in his bathroom. Praise the Lord. Love him but want my bathroom to myself again. Then we will start taking up the carpet in the dining room and will paint the floor a terracotta red and put in lines to make it look like tile. Should be fun. The front yard looks awesome. The pallet and 1/2 of St Augustine we put down has really taken well. We put in red mulch in two of the long beds and some of the rocks we collected in Colorado and with the deck finished it looks good. Now to cut up and haul away the old hot tub that never got fixed, and we will level that area and put in gravel and big Mexican pots of cactus. We have started landscaping the area around the fountain and pond by the kitchen deck again. It has really sunk below lawn level, the stepping stones that is, so we are going to take the all up, and level again, and put down plastic, and the stones and put gravel between them this time. Should really look good.
Bob got the lumber and wood out from under the back deck and now it is open and snake free, but still have the toads to keep down the bugs.
Bob is planning on going on the yearly fishing trip with the guys next week. He and Jim will leave on Wed after his sonogram and come back Sunday. They found a Lone Star Metal boat with a trolling motor and trailer for $500 and split the cost and they have a river boat for catfishing etc. So they can now fish on their own w/o having to wait for someone else to go out. They are like to kids - have 4 legal pads pages two columns long of stuff to take. I think lots are duplicates, but the group is having a last meeting Monday night to finalise what food each is responsible for, as there is 11 or 12 going.
Been working every Friday night at the Cafe working the cash register for our friends. They pay me in free meals, so I think I can handle that. Did do one Sunday, but that was only because the waitress didnt show up.
I have had an upper respiratory mess for about a week. Mowed the lawn last Monday w/o a mask and have paid for it with fever, etc, and brocitis. Bob still has not gotten over his bought from 3 weeks ago.
Jim's daughter got married yesterday in Cottondale and Bob and a Constable held shotguns on the groom until he said I DO. Was a typical redneck wedding. :)
Fire department treasurer work continues with each day a new issue. Books are balanced though and the last business meeting went well, as everyone could see what each bill was and how much was paid. Waiting on the results of the new 2008 FEMA Grants as they have not started awarding yet. We hope for a building and a new truck. We got the contract signed this week on the tower construction, so maybe in a month or so, we will have a radio tower that will allow us to hear all the calls that go out, not 50%. We are all so ready. Matt resigned from the fire department last week. Health issues, and we have the Fire Fighters Ministery available to help him get thru it.
Guess better get up and get the wash changed over. LOve the new washer and dryer and the new Motorola Blue Tooth. They all work great, and already see a reduction in the water bill.

Mom got her hair cut

What a wonderful Thursday that was. I took her lunch over to her and she told me as I walked in - that she wanted her hair cut. I asked her before or after she ate. So she ate her lunch and I went for the truck, fully expecting to have to put it back. But much to my surprise, she was getting ready to go. We went to Grapevine to get it cut to Lisa's place, and she did a great job, leaving it straight so she didnt have to worrry about curls. We stopped for ice cream and headed for the house. She at a good dinner and wanted to have a day out again. So we certainly will.
Went to Trinity care also and they were really nice and the place is nice., and the Assisted living cost $2305 per month, or $85 per day for short term visits, rather like a hotel. Bob and I had a long talk and decided that until she started to wander or we couldn't physically take care of her, that she would stay at home. Talked to Doc also and he was in full agreement. They have Pat's Mom every other 3 months to care for, and Lisa and the kids moved out and into their own place, so they have the care issue also.
Have had grass fires every day and ems calls as usual, so will catch up on the paper work today when we arnt working outside doing yard work and clean up, from under the back deck and the garage, and finish mowing the yards and edging, as the 5 1/2 hours I spent yesterday mowing and spraying didnt get it finished.
Worked at the Cafe last night and came home ready for my take home dinner and bed. Then we got a call this morning about 2:30am and decided someone else could take that one. Just turned off the radio.
Rainer talked to me about the supposed issue between Mary and I and I told him that it was all on her side, and my ego didnt have to be bolstered by telling stories in the department, that she was the Secretary and I had told her that. Explained about her trying to tell me what to do and that Stan was standing there when she tried it and I told her that I would take care of the food issues. That during the fund raiser. Seems she had decided to be a Chip and try to run the department. Told her when she said that she would be running the monthly meetings that she needed to talk to the Chief about that as that was his job, and I dont think she liked that at all. So informed Rainer that I wasnt worried about all her calling to different members of the department but they better not call me with her stuff. He said he was tired of it too. And so is the Chief. So Rainer said to follow protocol with issues that pretain to the fire stuff and go to the chief with the stuff about the Treasurers job. Said that was what I was doing, that Mary's stuff was not important enough to worry about, and if people didnt know me for being honest by now, that they never would.
Still no Baby Donkies, so hopefully this next week. Sweetie Pie looks so miserable.